Wednesday, February 22, 2012
This post is probably going to make you mad. I'm sorry.....
Everything takes time. Healing takes time. Healing from childhood trauma takes a loooooooootttttttttttttt of tiiiiiiiiimmmmmmeeeeee. But it happens.
You can do every therapy known to man and it helps. Almost all of it. Lord knows I have thrown the book at J over these past 6 years. And it's all helped. BUT....the main thing is time. Healing a heart does not happen over night, or a month, or a year.
Celebrate the victories when you can. No matter how small....write them down. Take them out and read them because they will carry you during the low times and the backslides. There's going to be a lot of backsliding. It's just part of it. Reading the victories will make it bearable. This is a part of our gratitude list every day just so I don't forget.
Therapies/tools that we are still using (use the search bar to find more on my blog about these therapies):
Tapping (also known as Thought Field Therapy or EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique)
Psychological Reversals (a/k/a rubbing)
So when you think you can't do this therapeutic parenting gig for one more day.....keep remembering that it takes time. Try doing it for just the next 5 seconds, then the next 5 seconds, lather, rinse, repeat. I can do something for 5 seconds that might kill me if I think I have to do it for the next 5 minutes. 5 seconds I can manage.
You can too. You can do this. For the next 5 seconds you can do A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G. Pinky swear.
P.S. Tudu has started a new support group for Georgia families. Go check it out: Taps.