Wednesday, February 22, 2012


This post is probably going to make you mad.  I'm sorry.....

Everything takes time. Healing takes time.  Healing from childhood trauma takes a loooooooootttttttttttttt of tiiiiiiiiimmmmmmeeeeee.  But it happens.

You can do every therapy known to man and it helps.  Almost all of it.  Lord knows I have thrown the book at J over these past 6 years.  And it's all helped.  BUT....the main thing is time.  Healing a heart does not happen over night, or a month, or a year.

Celebrate the victories when you can.  No matter how small....write them down.  Take them out and read them because they will carry you during the low times and the backslides.  There's going to be a lot of backsliding.  It's just part of it.  Reading the victories will make it bearable.  This is a part of our gratitude list every day just so I don't forget.

Therapies/tools that we are still using (use the search bar to find more on my blog about these therapies):

Tapping (also known as Thought Field Therapy or EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique)
Psychological Reversals (a/k/a rubbing)
Bonding exercises
BrainGym exercises
Geographic fix

So when you think you can't do this therapeutic parenting gig for one more day.....keep remembering that it takes time.  Try doing it for just the next 5 seconds, then the next 5 seconds, lather, rinse, repeat.  I can do something for 5 seconds that might kill me if I think I have to do it for the next 5 minutes.  5 seconds I can manage.

You can too.  You can do this.  For the next 5 seconds you can do A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G.  Pinky swear.

P.S.  Tudu has started a new support group for Georgia families.  Go check it out: Taps.


Diana said...

Welcome back to blogsville!

Time, time, time, a bazillion dump truck loads of patience and probably a few more deliveries just in case, realizing it's not just about the kids and it's a FAMILY that needs to heal and RELATIONSHIPS that need to heal and ADULTS that need to learn to heal their hearts too in order to make it work.

Its not a linear process, that's for darn sure!

GB's Mom said...

Six years! WOW!

Lisa said...

Oh Diana! A friend told me about 7 years ago that everything hard is a lesson in patience and tolerance. She had no idea how true this was going to be for me. :) said...

8 days, need I say more, I'm so looking forwatd to whatever you may share with me at 3 am.... That sounds really strange but I know that you know what imean a x looking forward too might be he wrong expression it ix mostly that I can not waitron see you

Anonymous said...

It's been six years for T and us, too! I can't imagine my life without her and the years have flown by...but on the hard days each minute ticks by like an eternity LOL

Sophie said...

I love you. Seriously. You know everything. ;)

And you are the most awesomest :) photographer on the planet.

Annie said...

With my daughter we stared out rough - tantrums, etc.....but I worked with her, and she worked, and was (or so it seemed HEALED!). Then puberty hit. Sexual abuse was remembered. She "remembered" that she is NOT a "good girl" but one to be used. She has so much depth and ability to figure things out, but it isn't making anything better, really.