Saturday, October 15, 2011

Life in the Grateful House



I am testing the blog fates....

October 23 is our gotcha day.  The day my world and life as I knew it changed forever.  I have changed and grown in ways I didn't even think possible.  All because my warrior child forced me.  Dragging me kicking and screaming with her as she has changed and grown into such a beautiful young lady.  This year will mark 5 years that I have been blessed to be her mom.

Every year her traumaversary has started around August 1st and proceeded to be horribly challenging until around the end of November.  Last year we saw great progress when the traumaversary behaviors didn't start until the end of September and ended right after her birthday, November 9th.

You can read about traumaversaries here, here, and here.

This year we are one week away and they haven't started yet.  Do you hear the heavens singing????

Is it because I've been reminding her almost daily that her traumaversary was coming up so she needed to get ready to start having tantrums?

or because we're hooping almost daily? More about that here.

or because we did the commitment ceremony in June?  Read about that here and here.  Tissue alert.

or because of all the tapping?  (I've written so much about tapping I can't pick just a couple so use the search in the sidebar.)

or because she's been here five years and she's starting to believe that I'm not going to bail on her?

or because of niacin?  More here, and here.

or all of the above????

Honestly, I just don't know.

I do know that I am so proud of her and of me.  Because this parenting trauma gig hasn't been easy.

We've had to fight our way to love and every step of the journey has been so worth it.  Every tear, lost friendship, every minute of therapy, every everything.  Worth it baby.

I wouldn't change a thing.  We're living Life in the Grateful House.

20 comments:

Lynne said...

Like X 1000 with sparkles! :)

Deborah said...

Yay Lisa and J!!! What a huge success story, and how wonderful for both of you!

(and even if the behavior does start now, it's still a big success)

GB's Mom said...

You and J are my heroes and inspiration! Happy Traumaversary!

Kelly said...

:) You are both amazing!!! You are my heroes and always will be even though I don't know you, know you. I seriously just want to hug your neck right now. ((hugs))

marythemom said...

Our 5yr traumaversary is in a couple of weeks. I hope you know what a big part you played in helping us get this far, and not just because you suggested we get residential treatment written into our subsidy agreement with Nebraska, but all those years you reminded me to be the squeaky wheel!

Thank you! Many hugs,
Mary in Texas (Squeak!)

Diana said...

YEAH for healing!!! YEAH for hope and for never giving up.

Ranger said...

Hugs, I' m so happy for you both! (the balloon picture is gorgeous, what a beautiful girl you have)

Sarah said...

yay!!! I am SO happy for both of you!! You two give me so much hope. Love you. <3 <3 <3

Lee said...

What Diana said! I was literally going to right the exact same thing! LOL

Blessed said...

All the hard work (done by both of you!) is paying off! That must feel great. So happy for you!

Dia por Dia said...

Sounds like all the hard work continues to pay off. I am so happy for both of you! Personally I think it is all of the above! Huge hugs to you both from all of us!

Denise said...

This post gave me the biggest smile. SO happy for both of you!!!

Last Mom said...

Yay!!! I love you and am so thankful for you and J for leading the way!

waldenbunch said...

I'm so happy for you both! There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. It just may not be the tunnel we wanted ! You go, girl!

stellarparenting.com said...

where is the love button causes I LOVE it!

Kelley said...

The heavens are singing AMEN! I love you.

beemommy said...

Do you see how much work the two have you have put into these five years?! Wowza, you are both females that just rock! Guess you're gonna just have to call it your gotchaversary or something. Bravo!

Anonymous said...

SO wonderful, congrats to all of you! J is such an inspiration (as are you)!

Michelle said...

Happy sigh. You two are so inspiring.

Amy @ Literacy Launchpad said...

Lisa, our kids have the same gotcha day! Well, technically the 23rd is when we stepped off the plane in America as a family. Hoping someday we can truly celebrate it with our daughter. Thanks for the hope!