Kara is staying with us at the lake this week for camp. This is the first spend the night (with a friend) for both of them. A huge memory for both of them and so grateful that they are healed enough to do this. I kept them swimming from 10 AM yesterday morning until 5:30 straight. I even brought lunch down to the dock so they wouldn't miss a minute. Kara didn't want to sleep in the room next to J's and asked if she could stay in J's room. I talked with J about it and we went over safety, etc. Both girls were adamant that they could be as quiet as mice. Kara wanted to go to bed a J's bedtime of 7 since she was still exhausted from camp for the previous two weeks. True to their word they were quiet and I stepped in to check 15 minutes later and Kara was sawing logs. In 15 more minutes J was as well.
J was up at 5:30 this morning nervous about camp and because she didn't sleep very well last night with Kara in the room. We tapped, rubbed on psychological reversals and went over all the rules ad nauseum. After breakfast, when they had all their camp bags ready, they took turns reading out of the Amer i can G irl book, Friends - Making Them and Keeping Them. Great book BTW.
Tapped, etc all the way to camp. They were the second ones to arrive which gave J a comfort level. I left and all day I kept looking at the time and fearing that I'd be getting a phone call any second. No calls.
The director came out first to greet me before bringing any of the kids out to their parents. I was worried as she was walking up. She kept a perfectly straight face all the way to my car. I probably should've gotten out of the car but thought it would be better to receive bad news sitting down. When she got to the car she said Jordan did amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She said all the camp counselors were in love with her and couldn't believe all her good manners! She remembered her manners, listened, told the director when she was scared, remembered to tell them she's allergic to cheese so she couldn't have mac & cheese today. The kids liked her and she made new friends. Woo hoo for my kid!!!!!!!!!!!!
And then I started crying! This news would've been music to any mother's ear but to mine it was priceless. J was never the charming RAD kid. She was the "don't turn your back" kid cause you might seriously regret it and have wounds if you do. Today the heavens were singing and I
Jordan came running screaming, "MOM!!!!" with a grin as big as Texas. Insert more awkward hugging through the car door. I don't think I could get out due to the shock factor at this point. The director told her she would see J in the morning and J emphatically replied, "yes ma'am you will!!!" She got in the car and screamed "THAT WAS SOOO AWESOME!!!!!!!" Then I started crying again. J said, "mom are you crying?" Yep. She turned to Kara and said, "she does that when she's happy." :)
She chattered away about her day and how she did a the high dive. She started on the dock which she does pretty well and then moved on up. She said when she came up she sputtered that she had a "head stomach" and everyone thought that was funny.
On the way home J kept saying she was about to get sick and she had a headache. We made it home without an event. I think dehydration/lack of food/and stress factors were the contributors. She ate two pan-seared tuna steaks, 2 avocados and 2 peanut butter and honey sandwiches. While she was doing the dishes she said, "mom, I forgot I was a bottomless pit at camp because I was nervous but now that I'm home I remembered that I am a BOTTOMLESS PIT!!!!" No kidding.
At 6 the dishes were done and J was begging to go to bed due to exhaustion. She went on and Kara and I read some more out of the AG book till 7. J was already asleep and 5 minutes later so was Kara.
Tonight I think she'll do better with Kara in the room. At bedtime I introduced J to Kara. J meet Kara. Kara meet J. Kara is still Kara in the middle of the night just like she is right now. Contrary to your midnight beliefs she does NOT morph into a monster. She is always Kara. They both giggled.
The high notes of the day:
Creek walking was the BEST according to both girls. J didn't like drama or basketball (because she thought she didn't do well) but she said it was all great. Kara wasn't crazy about speed ball.
Asked each what was the thing they were most proud of today.
Kara: Being a good friend to J.
J: Remembering her manners even though she was stressed and making a new friend.
The things they both wanted to improve on tomorrow:
Kara: Wanted to do better on table manners.
J: Wanted to be a better friend tomorrow.
Today is the day that I never thought would arrive. I never in a million years thought or even hoped out loud that she could blow the doors off such a monumental challenge. Yes... I've known that she's made great emotional strides to overcome so much trauma that would bring most adults to their knees. But this was over the top! It's a proud mama day today. I'll take it and store it away here so I can always pull it out on a rough day and remember the champion of conquering her fears. I love my kid. She is the bomb!