Monday, February 21, 2011
Kristy has a chart in her office that we use to explain this to her. A diagram of the attachment cycle to use with our kids can be found here. I'm going to print it out and use it at home as well. It certainly can't hurt. On the first diagram, during the explanation, we explain what are some of the needs a baby has and what the mother does to meet the needs. The second diagram we go through what the baby needs and how the mother doesn't meet the needs. The last diagram we go through what happens with during the 2nd year of attachment and how the child learns limits and boundaries. Now that J is healthier and been through these explanations a gazillion times she can rattle them off all by herself. Every time she does she gets a little better because she internalizes them each time she says them.
Just sharing what has worked for us.