Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Self-Care

Several have asked/mentioned what I'm doing to take care of myself. It turns out to be quite a lot. These are in no particular order....

1. Reiki at least once a day and twice a week I go to get Reiki from someone else.

2. I'm doing a lot of reading.

3. Losing myself in music. I love music and it can really transport me to a different mood.

4. Singing at the top of my lungs and doing the crazy dancing around the living room. Neither of which are very pretty but I'm OK with that. :D

5. Having quality time with Jordan without the crazy.

6. Quiet times alone at least 3 times a day. Even if it's 5 minute increments.

7. Salt/soda baths occasionally.

8. Extra long gratitude lists.

9. Therapy

10. Phone conversations with really good friends.

11. Daily meditation

Truly I'm not grieving. As hard as that might be to understand I think I've grieved for so long that it no longer feels necessary. The only thing that has changed is what we call it. We called it a relationship, when in fact, it was just a friendship. We're just calling it what it is. We'll remain friends. Well...I'm doing my part at least.

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

So glad to see you are taking time for yourself!! Glad to see the update!

Rachie317 said...

I totally understand "grieving for so long it doesn't seem neccesary" - what a great way to frame it.

But nevertheless, my heart has been hurting for you. I don't think it is ever easy for a relationship to change - especially if one person is handling it better than another. :(

Keep taking really good care of yourself! I'm always here!

GB's Mom said...

Glad you are taking good care of yourself. Keep doing so. Hugs and prayers.

Lee said...

It sounds so hard and you are most assuredly handling this with more grace than I could ever muster. Sending virtual chocolate to add to your self care list! :-)

SassyCupcakes said...

I'm glad you've been able to take some time for yourself. *hug*

Diana said...

Glad to hear this positive update. You are an awesome lady who deserves the best! Don't ever forget that. How's K doing?

Annie said...

I just don't know what to say, but want you to know that I think of you often and am sending loving energy your way.

~Dinah said...

hugs and positive thoughts coming your way! :D

The Accidental Mommy said...

Good good GOOD for you!

Kerrie said...

So sad for you. Keep working through it.

shastastevens said...

You are such a down to earth, strong person. I'm sorry for the loss, even if it was truly long ago. I empathize with you and hurt for you. . .even if you are done with that part! Hugs and prayers. Thanks for posting. . .I check on you way too much!

BT said...

Sometimes change can be so hard, even when it's ultimately positive change. So glad you've found such a multitude of ways to take care of yourself.

Shanti said...

Glad to hear you're fitting in some time to recoup. Big hugs to you!

marythemom said...

Glad to hear you're dancing!

Hugs and prayers,
Mary in TX

stellarparenting.com said...
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Floortime Lite Mama said...

Lisa
Just found your blog through J ( Stellar Parenting ) and am really liking it
A very happy birthday to you
Hope you have a gorgeous year of love and peace

GB's Mom said...

Happy Birthday, from New York, Lisa! Prayers and hugs. Know you are thought of and loved and not alone today!

Laurie

stellarparenting.com said...

That was supposed to say, you are so important and by the way HAPPY BIRTHDAY, I really should proof read things beofre I hit publish.

Shanti said...

Happy happy birthday, Lisa!!! Hope your day has a few breathable moments and down time!