Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Heavy Sigh of....

Relief. The heavens were singing today.

First we did some anger work this morning. Serious whacking out the anger pillow. Did some more talking then I totally stole a recipe from Corey. LOTS of attention, more talking and it was revealed that she was scared to go with Papa & Monya to church. There's so many people that it was totally freaking her out. J had the brilliant idea to try having 30 minutes a week at their house until she feels safe. I can so live with that.

She's been begging for baby time for several weeks now and honestly I have just been putting it on the back burner. My cold has left me feeling so crudy that I just didn't have the energy. So I threw in a dose of baby time. As soon as she saw the bottle come out she was jumping up and down for joy. Then she asked me to please tell her adoption story. So I did. Usually when we do baby time we don't have an audience. Today we did so I had another little one clamoring for the same thing. So didn't happen. She's not ready yet.

Joy! Oh joy! It worked (for today).

And.... I got a foot rub. Gotta love that! ♥♥♥

Really grateful I can get out of my comfort zone and try new things. An open mind is key for this kind of stuff. And it's always wonderful (and comforting) to know that I have brilliant minds surrounding me. I don't have to know it all. I just have to listen and be ready to receive. You guys rock!

9 comments:

matryoshka said...

You. are. awesome. Glad today was better!!!

Essie the Accidental Mommy said...

AAAaaahhhhh. Phew.

Did she get bored of her blog? I just remember how well she did with it. It nailed in a major change for her.

Hope this sticks!

Kelly said...

You are amazing. Good job mommy.

Hannah_Rae said...

Lisa,
Just caught up on the past few days. Wow! Deep breath. Sounds like you and I are going tit for tat right now. Jeremiah has been in tantrum mode for most of the week. Not. Fun.

Do you mind describing baby time in more detail? I think it's something that Jeremiah could really use.

Blessings!

Hannah

Miz Kizzle said...

I'm glad J is feeling better. Does she have a diary where she gets to write her private thoughts that no one else will read? Her blog is nice but I think it's important to have a place to record one's thoughts that isn't being accessed by strangers and one's family and where one doesn't feel obligated to parrot whatever it is that one's parents want to hear.

Lisa said...

Miz Kizzle,
J has many diaries. I am a big proponent of journaling. She is free to write anything she wants, anytime she wants and no one else will read it. The problem is she hates to write by hand. Loathes it! She is free to write anything on a word document on the computer but she won't. Blogging was the only thing she did consistently well and she did it for the love of comments. I did not censor her writing. She is free to express herself. I won't make her write on her blog. She does it only when she wants to.

If you knew my kid you'd know she WILL NOT parrot anything. She has a mind of her own and I encourage her to use it. Of course sometimes I get more than I bargained for. ;)

Ashley said...

*So* glad to hear about a better day!

Mama Drama Times Two said...

Yeah!!! Happy to hear things are looking up!!! Now about those anger pillows...I want one in pale slate blue, one in dusty plum-rose, one in olive green and two in butter yellow for the living room...and...

BT said...

So glad to hear about your breakthrough with J, and I hope it keeps up. It must have been quite an uncomfortable mix of feelings for her about that church outing with the grandparents: excitement to be granted the trust and privilege; chance of feeling unworthy of it; total fear of the situation and the number of people; and on and on, I'm sure. There is no way we can ever completely "get" what goes on in these kids' minds, I don't think.

P has been asking for SO much more rocking/holding time than usual this month(and we've been building it in with a vengeance). And, like your J, he's been asking for a return of what we call "bottle time." Again, we've been granting it. It is amazing how it calms him--I can feel his whole body go from tense to relaxed in a matter of minutes. And the eye contact...

How will you decide when SK is ready for baby time?