Tuesday, December 15, 2009

There's more

It appears that J is punishing me because she doesn't think that I have enough love to go around and she's pretty pissed off that she has a sister and has to share me.

More drama tonight. Don't even want to talk about it. Maybe later.....

13 comments:

BT said...

Hang in there, Lisa. She will come around. In the meantime, maybe the two of you can breathe together (or is she too far gone for that right now?).

Diana said...

Oh, the drama...I think this is the most exhausting part of being a RADical mommy. It isn't just normal kid drama. It is over the top complete with screaming, yelling, weeping, wailing, and gnashing of teeth and it NEVER. ENDS! They might let you catch your breath for a minute, but then they start up again with a vengence.

Does she know K's adoption is just about final? I wonder if she is terrified that when that happens you will leave her?? Is she having a delayed traumaversary reaction?

Eat chocolate, take a bubble bath, and give yourself permission to cry your eyes out. (((HUGS!)))

Ashley said...

Big, big BIG hugs, Lisa....

SocialWrkr24/7 said...

Sibling rivalry... hang in there!

Kathleen said...

{{{{{{{lISA}}}}}}}}}}}

Sibling rivalry! Another step in the journey to being a normal little kid. Doesn't make it easy to deal with, though, for her or you.

waldenbunch said...

I have never understood why Steph and Martin can never be in a good place at the same time. One is working and one is not. Don't know if that's there bio connection or the same belief J has. Praying for you all.

J. said...

hang in there, she'll get there. and you my dear need some choclate and some time alone - go find it.

Jennie said...

i agree with Diana's question about K's finalizing adoption. Sissy screamed the entire way to the courthouse on her adoption day and she was only 3.5 years old, it was like she KNEW. We didn't even tell her when Wonder Girl's adoption day would be, didn't take her either. WAY too much drama. We just told her when she came home from school, 'Wonder Girl's adoption was finished today" and she just looked at me with her deer-in-the-headlights look, then walked away.

Little Wonder said...

HUGS!!!

Shanti said...

Sending BIG cyber hugs. =(

Annie said...

I think this is natural with even biological kids. At least one of my students was saying something about her little brother last week that made me think it was an issue at their house..... I suppose in the age of "planned parenthood" it must be! No different than a planned adoption, actually...and children feel they ought to have been consulted, and have a say in exactly HOW the newcomer should be treated. I would have thought that my children would have been gratified to see other children share the advantages they have - but no - doesn't work that way.

Kelly said...

I'm so sorry Lisa. But I have to be honest. Some blogs I read and really worry when the writer sounds down in the dumps but you are just amazing and strong and I don't worry too much about you or your girls. I know you will take this by the horns and come out on the other side with new found knowledge and creative means of survival. But I am sorry you have to go through this. I am sorry J has suffered so much that she still struggles to trust after all your faithfulness to her. She gets it though, you know she does, and she will snap out of this and see you as the wonderful mom she knows you are. Hang in there and I will be praying for you.

matryoshka said...

the not wanting to share you sounds completely normal...of course our kids have to ramp up any reaction 300 times other kids, so when they're upset it's like living through a ginormous blizzard/earthquake on the side of an erupting volcano.

you are such an awesome mom lisa....hang in there