Most of the time our kids start throwing meltdowns and fits right around the anniversary date of them coming home. For J she usually starts about 2 months ahead. Just for good measure.
Normally the way I handle this is to keep it very quiet. Ssshhhh....don't mention it and all will be well. If I don't mention it maybe she'll forget. Well that hasn't worked out so well so I'm trying a different tactic.
I'm going to remind her every other day or so to be getting ready for the annual fit throwing contest. Today I told her that it's only nine more months until the anniversary of her coming home and that usually she starts getting anxious and throwing fits in about seven more months so I want her to start getting ready for the fits now. Just so she can be prepared. I just casually mentioned it in conversation. Her response, "you're silly mama. I'm not going to throw fits about that!" Of course you know when she said that it was filled with exclamation marks and bold type!
Now in my simple mind I think it's a stellar idea. I have no idea if it will work but I'm going to give it a shot. My thought process is that if I remind her of it often enough she'll be so sick of hearing it so she won't bother throwing the fits. We'll see. More will be revealed later..... stay tuned.
BTW....does anybody need a video on any of the things I've talked about???? Please don't hesitate to ask. Honestly can't remember if I've done one on everything I've talked about. So I'm waiting on y'all to let me know.