Sunday, January 11, 2009

Mum was the word

Yep, J had a pretty hard day on Friday and again on Saturday morning. I was waiting to see if she would blog about it. We tapped, rubbed, karate chopped, mini-tramped, talked, etc. Nothing seemed to be working. Then all of a sudden she flipped the RAD switch off and the normal switch on. Heck if I know....

I was really proud of her for taking ownership of her behaviors. I thought she might want to cover it up and hide it away (and I wasn't going to make her tell since it's her blog) but she decided it was more important to tell the truth. I also wasn't going to rat her out here until she figured out what she was going to say. It's kind of a hard line to walk. I don't let her read my blog because I need a place to vent. She gets that. But since so many of you are pulling for her I would've felt like I was being a tattle-tale.

So this prompted a discussion. We've both decided that we each have our own blogs and each of us are free to say whatever we need to say. We also agreed that we need to keep it very honest because we want to be helpful to others that are sitting in the RADical boat with us. We did not get here overnight and it's constant work. There are ups and downs, twists and turns and we want others to see that. Most of all we want to share things we have learned because you never know who it might help. Sometimes we are a lesson in how not to be. We realize that.

A comment from Sasha about my introduction post at the beginning of the blogging journey, caused me to go back and read it again too. I am still awestruck that both of us have come this far.

J did incredibly well at the lake. Very appropriate behavior and no triangulation whatsoever. She was very proud of herself. Her Mom was too!

Waldenbunch Marty: Can you please email me offline again? With the computer crash I've lost your email and can't respond.

Hannah_Rae: Can you also email me offline? I may have some ideas on your question on J's blog.


Kristina P. said...

It sounds like it's really been a great communication tool for the both of you as well.

Jo said...

I am so utterly amazed at the both of you. I know each of us, as human beings, struggle with making good choices every day, and I thought J was incredible in owning both her good and bad behaviors. And you holding her in such a supportive place, to allow her these wings. I love you both!

The Accidental Mommy said...

There are many days when I get bogged down in how bad things can get. I sometimes need a big fat shove to remember how bad it used to be all the time without a break. But it always gives me a new burst of new energy when I compare the past to the present!

Jillene said...

Sounds like you 2 are communicating so well!! Maybe this blog thing is really working to her benefit!!

Ashley said...

Amazing that J was able to own her behaviours- and good that she owns the good and the bad.

I meant to ask you, as I know your J is a voracious reader, has she read the Anne of Green Gables books? If not, I can babble about them for awhile, but the reason I thought on it was Anne says "Tomorrow is a brand new day with no mistakes in it yet."

L, L, and E,


Holly said...

Glad you guys are able to communicate so well and blogging is going well for the both of you.